“[T]he frustration of men’s sense of entitlement isn’t just an individual problem because the sense of entitlement isn’t simply individual… . [I]t’s a socially-constructed sense of entitlement that is enshrined in religion, the law, and traditions, including child-rearing practices. When the entitlement is challenged by social movements (feminism, civil rights, etc.) or by changing social realities (the large-scale entry of women in the professions and into a dominant place in universities, the dissolution of middle class privilege due to globalization and the destruction of the middle class) this is certainly experienced individually but the source of the experience is not about psychology but society, social power, and social change. However, individual psychology indeed shapes how an individual man will experience it, including, at times, in deeply pathological ways.”
— Michael Kaufman, quoted in A clarification on male entitlement by Hugo Schwyzer
- don’t ever insult someone i care about
- or else i will hunt you down
- do not dismiss me as a naive and nice girl who won’t get her hands dirty
- because i will unleash my wrath on you
But it’s deeper than that
It is not the smell of beer alone that nauseates me
but the smell of it on his breath in my memories
It is not the grip of hands around my wrists that sparks my anger
it’s that that spot riddled with scars has always been hidden from strangers
It is not that stupid has such a negative definition
but rather that so many have aimed it at my mind with such precision
It is not that this some-what beautiful home is shameful for other’s to know
but that all the memories that live inside of it might show
It is not lover’s walking away that cause such breaking
just that I never thought they’d be like the other’s and come solely for the taking
It is not yelling alone that brings me to quiver and tear
but rather that I’ve tried to escape that childhood soundtrack for years
It’s not being alone that devours my stability
just that I haven’t a home in myself, I haven’t mastered that ability
yo go check this girl out. words of fire.
I’ll fight for you, but I will not compete for you. There’s a difference.
Dear people in my life,
I’m sorry I cannot manage to maintain normal human relationships and often retreat back into myself for hours, days, weeks at a time. Please know I still love you and care about you. I just struggle to love and care for myself sometimes, that’s all.
Your introverted, insecure friend
everyone should watch this.
I’m not sure both would work just yet but there’s a thought.
nadork replied to your post “it’s been a long time coming, but it feels nice to be living away from…”
get a cat!!
A cat would be awesome, but I also really want a hedgehog,